Saturday, 4 March 2017

The Sibling


Mohan Kothekar
Writer and Blogger

I still recall the exact date and time of my first encounter with the slim and cute toddler who happened to be our immediate neighbour and has occupied newly constructed apartment a week before our possession.  It was 26th October, 1991 at 14.30 hours, a year old girl in her birth suit emerged from her apartment and entered in our flat slowly and steadily, and in one go inspected the newcomer and his sundry luggage scattered in different rooms.  After thorough inspection, the silent spectator returned back with goose stepping without the slightest reaction.  From the day one, we never heard a little bit of noise from the next door as if only adults are the occupant.  The next door single tiny tot used to give a smile to a passer-by; but does not like if someone touch, cajole or up-raise her.  The toddler captured the heart of one and all as the most comely angel on the earth.

 
As age advanced, her look attractive and having a charming face as if she is the perfect model for advertisement of baby products.  She used to play with other timid lads within the boundary of our society.  Her mother was lucky; there was no need for her to take extra care of a baby.  The only unlawful activity she had inadvertently committed once in her life was when she was brought back from a furlong distance at an age of four.  How she crossed the road and entered in by lane is still a mystery; otherwise, the toddler was considered to be the most pleasant and law abiding baby.


Divya’s pet name ‘Dolly’ speaks a multitude about her identity and personality of a doll girl.  The girl never gets squalled, shouted nor created any baneful and untoward rumpus.  Her glamorous look and ingenious attitude has culminated into her permanent place in the lap of the beholder.  A pleasant, fair, beautiful, smart looking girl never gabs and conversed more than required; her activities were limited to herself.  Her food intake from the beginning was that of a ramp model’s diet.  The only point of dispute between her mother and the beloved daughter was the meal; her denial and negation for food consumption compel it to show her existence on the earth as a timid girl.  I still recollect the daily scenario where the mother is running after the girl with a dinner plate.


At the age of seven year, Dolly became an elder sister of a neonatal girl.  The younger sister was equally beautiful, but chubby and roly-poly.  Nursing a small baby was her hobby.  Dolly used to take all the precautionary measures one has to perform as a big sister.  Her activities were never less than a trained nurse.  Her missionary zeal has added a feather in her cap.  She was an asset rather than liability for the parents.  Everybody wishes to speak good about Dolly’s demeanour and conduct.  The thing noticed from the birth that the little sister was naughty, mischievous and impish.
        

          
           When Dolly was an eight year old, we observed a sudden and abrupt alteration in her personality.  The girl once upon a time was a chaste, guileless, shy and simple one was found in a disturbed tone.  The girl whose voice never been heard years together started yelling, screaming and skirling.  Payal, her little sister, was just opposite in nature; she has tended to tease, peeve and harass the elder sister.  Dolly used to spend the majority of time and energy on taming her sister; nevertheless, Payal never inculcated any of her elder sister’s virtues of courtesy, etiquette and mannerism.  She was always in a conflicting and combating mood.  It seems, Payal has not received the same set of genes as that of Dolly.  Well wisher of Ms Dolly advised her not to involve in brawl; she accepted the elder suggestions and instead of spending time on fighting, she preferred to retreat.  However, naughty younger sister does not allow any activity the elder wishes to perform including her homework.  The drama continued with the passage of time; the intensity of confrontation enhanced due strength the little sister gained because of her robust and sturdy health.  How a tender looking adolescent fight with a tiny sumo wrestler?


          It is ridiculous to note that the Payal was chatter and shindy one and elder were of cool and composed category.  Her mother often remarked that had she has been known in advance about the nature, temperament and disposition of a little girl she would not have delivered such a demon and genii girl.  A lot of energy of Dolly was utilized in securing and hiding Pen, pencil, eraser, notebook, books and school bag from the undignified girl.  Dolly’s school mates were afraid, affright and dismay of Payal as she was practically difficult to control.  No one forgets the incidence, when Payal torn and tattered Dolly’s practical book into several pieces a week before her tenth standard board annual examination.

                 
            When Dolly was in twelfth standard, it was decided to purchase a moped.  The biggest question was how to save moped and rider from stickler, heady, pugnacious and a truculent attitude of Ms Payal.  At last, the moped was purchased and from that moment; there were a high degree of hassle and conflict between both the sisters.  Finally, Dolly accepted the defeat and handed over the keys to her eleven year sister.  She preferred to go to junior college on bicycle till the end of the twelfth standard board examination.  The duty of the neighbour was to engage Ms Payal in one or other activities so as to allow Dolly to complete her homework and to prepare for board examination.


She joined the graduate courses; that was the crucial period of her life.  Ancestors were migrated from the West Pakistan.  In their caste, education is presumed as secondary to the business; leave aside girl education.  Securing higher qualification was regarded as a stigma and disgrace for a girl, getting an educated groom is a hazardous task.  Major junk of boys get associated with their ancestral business immediately after matriculation and very few opted for professional courses.  In spite of the prevailing traditional family ethos, Dolly with conviction, announced that she will marry only after the graduation.  For the first time, she resisted and struggled with her parents and the nearest relatives like the goddess Durga.  Neighbour and well wisher convinced the family regarding importance of education in a life of an individual.  Dolly’s cherished dream was to join air hostess job after graduation; however, her utmost desire to remain in vain and unfruitful due constant negation.  After graduation, the very first proposal was finalised and her ring-ceremony was performed at the age of twenty one.  The businessman family from outstation has decided to accept her as their daughter in law.  We observed in her a happy go lucky attitude.  She never said no to anything, including the choice of a groom.


            Her fiance presented her the latest model of smartphone, the fourteen year sister-in-law brawled with the boy and compelled him to shell bucks for another smartphone of the same brand.  Dolly told her fiance that henceforth she should not be given any present.  Dolly never used to get privacy to share love and adoration with the boy.  During subsequent visits he presented articles in duplicate to avoid any confrontation.  He rightly understands the psyche of the naughty sister-in-law.


          The marriage was solemnized immediately after the graduation.  That was the day of happiness as well as sorrow for one and all.  There were a lull and calmness in the society.  Within a week the Dolly becomes darling of her in-laws.  Both the sisters were found chit chatting on mobile as if they are the close buddy.  Significant change was noticed in attitude of younger sibling as if she is a responsible and mature lady.  After a long gap, Dolly came to the maternal home with a smiling face.  A day had gone in jubilation, the next day the typical yelling and screaming sound registered her presence in the society.

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